This past Thursday evening I once again participated in the free teleseminar “Awakening the Impulse to Evolve.” The featured speaker this week was the man who inspired me about evolution to begin with, the Reverend Michael Dowd. Listening to Michael reminded me of why he has been one of the most important influences in my life. His way with words, his way of looking at evolution and humanity, and his passion for this subject were so very apparent during the call. Michael is currently being treated for cancer and this life-changing experience has only deepened his insights and his compassion for himself and us all.
One of the topics he covered was the idea of “reframing” how you look at a negative experience. Although I’d heard this before, from Michael’s book “Thank God for Evolution!” and from other sources, it didn’t really sink in until he gave us callers an exercise to try. At the end of each week’s call, those still on the phone participate in an “Evolutionary Cafe,” during which we are broken up into groups of three (oh, the wonders of technology) and discuss questions posed by the call’s facilitators. Michael asked us to think of a negative event from our past, reframe it in a positive way and then discuss it with the other two people in our group.
Of course this is not easy to do and my group had some very interesting discussions about each others thoughts and feelings. I spoke about my anxiety about finances that has been there throughout my adult life. Reframing these thoughts made me see that on some level my mind is trying to protect me and ensure my survival by warning me of potential danger. The danger is not having enough money and the ensuing catastrophe that might occur. Seeing this as a survival mechanism allows me to step back, have more compassion for myself, and then move beyond the anxiety.
There’s nothing like putting what you read into action to feel the real impact of a new idea. I often find myself immersed in negative thoughts during daily life and I’d like to continue to practice reframing those thoughts. The trickiest part of this technique is to remember to reframe my anxiety when it appears.
Have you had any success with reframing your thoughts?